Anyway, this Father's Day we mailed McKenzie's dad a gift as a surprise! The very next week was his birthday. We did not send another gift, but she sent him a special Birthday text (that's how they usually communicate) and she sent him a birthday card. WELL... He sent her a hurtful text fussing her for not remembering his b-day! He said he never got the text, and the card had not arrived yet either. He told her she should have his birthday in her IPhone so she would remember it! And as if this wasn't enough, his mother called McKenzie too and fussed at her! She said McKenzie was old enough to be more RSPONSIBLE and not forget her dad's birthday! McKenzie didn't tell me about all this for a couple days because she was upset. Was I upset? OMG!
I wrote her grandparents an amazingly coherent and wonderfully worded letter...discussing this word "RESPONSIBILITY." I reminded them that she was an honor student, and very RESPONSIBLE. I explained that she had NOT forgotten his b-day...had sent a birthday text and a birthday card. THEN I told them how we had mailed him a great Father's Day gift only the week before! I asked them if her dad had mentioned this, as he was complaining about the supposed forgotten b-day? I'm sure he did not tell them, because he's a mama's boy and a baby!
I also brought up HIS "RESPONSIBILTY" (or lack of) as a parent. I reminded them how little he contacted her; how he has never participated in any Christmas or Mother's day activity with her, concerning me...as would have been appropriate and sweet, over the years...and would have helped them stay closer to each other, and helped us remain connected as a "family." I also gave then banking information showing how little he contributes financially to her upbringing. In April I received a whopping $186 and in May a whopping $172! I asked how happy they would be if I was their daughter and this is what I got as child support. I asked them how far do they think this amount of money goes to helping with utility bills, food, new contacts, a new retainer, shoes, car insurance, gas for her car... I reminded them that over the years, he has always "let" me assume the brunt of the financial "RESPONSIBILITY." I asked them why was Darren's feelings more important than McKenzie's feelings and welfare, and why weren't they talking to their son about his Responsibility?
Yeah, RESPONSIBILITY...that's a pretty big word, with a pretty big concept behind it.
We all have burdens to bear, and tribulations in our life...but still...we have to be RESPONSIBLE. I LOVE being Responsible for my daughter. She is growing so fast...I will miss being Responsible for her; doing things for her. She is my only child...(Her dad's only child as well.) She is my EARTH ANGEL. I love her so much.
Seeing all the maddness happening with the Jackson family made me think of my daughter and this incident again. I am sure that Michael is not happy about what's been going on. Someone is manipulating His beloved mother and the children He loves so very much. I imagine that I know how He feels...RESPONSIBILITY is at the heart of this mess. Michael tried to be Resposible all His life with His family. He helped support them for SO MANY years. Someone is not being Responsible for their actions. Feelings are being hurt and I think money is involved as well...no matter what they say. It's funny, but on a much smaller scale, FEELINGS and MONEY were at the heart of my family incident just as Michael's family's incident. It doesn't matter how much, or how little, money is involved... The bottom line is people have to make a conscious decision to be RESPONSIBLE and to RESPECT the people in their life.